Q & A: My 16-year-old daughter came out to me as bisexual. I want her to have a traditional life with a husband and kids. What should I do?

Well…

You may wish to consider apologizing. Because “I want her to have a xxx life” doesn’t really factor into anyone’s life but your own. SHE is quite old enough to make her own decisions regarding her sexuality. Tell her you’ve thought it over, that you overreacted, and apologize. Let her know that though you’re surprised by this, you love her very much and support her. As an added touch to show that you mean it, and to illustrate how classy people behave, you may wish to invite your daughter’s girlfriend over for dinner. Get to know this person who is such an important figure in your daughter’s life.

You can do this. FWIW, it caught my parents by surprise too. But they eventually understood and supported us. Her parents do not. In fact, they refuse to acknowledge I exist. Guess where we live? A few minutes from MY parents. Her parents are 2,000 miles away and see their daughter at Christmas. That’s it. Don’t be them.

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Q & A: What is the worst thing about life?

It’s too short.

We, as a species, are making the same mistakes over and over. When I read something written in ancient times it’s remarkably similar to today. They’re complaining about taxes and that their kids don’t understand them etc. If we lived longer (in a healthy state – not body breaks down at 50 and we live to 3,000) I’d like to think we’d be less frantic, more considerate. And I hope that as a species we’d learn a few useful lessons, including how to pass those useful lessons on to the next generation.